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Quit Drinking and Making Excuses!

How many times have you told yourself, “I need to quit drinking,” only for tomorrow to come, and you find yourself reaching for the bottle again? If you’ve been through this cycle, you know how frustrating—how defeating—it feels. It’s easy to start thinking, What’s wrong with me?

But here’s the truth: there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s not about weakness or being broken; it’s about being stuck in a deeply ingrained pattern. When a habit is repeated over and over, it becomes automatic, making it feel almost impossible to break. However, the good news is that patterns can be changed. With the right approach, you can rewire your brain, replace old behaviors with healthier ones, and finally take control of your life—one step at a time.

Old Habits, New Life

Drinking, for many, isn’t just an indulgence. It’s an ingrained habit, something we do without even thinking. In the “olden days,” they used to say, “It takes a month to make or break a habit.” But modern research shows that it actually takes closer to 66 days for a new habit to take hold. That’s right—just over two months.

So, what do you do with that old, destructive habit? Instead of simply trying to stop drinking and leaving a void, you need to actively replace that habit with something better.

Without a plan, quitting can feel like an empty struggle, making it far too easy to slip back into old patterns. That’s why creating a new, sober routine is essential—it gives your mind and body something positive to focus on, making the transition smoother and more sustainable. That’s exactly what I teach you in my book, Life’s Better Sober, which you can find below.

Life's Better Sober, 66-Day Coaching Program
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I make it my job to walk you through those first 66 days of sobriety, step by step. And the best way to do that? One day at a time. As cliché as it sounds, that’s the only way sobriety works. Not forever. Just for today.

Thought Patterns: The Mental Shift

We have to change our thoughts about drinking. Stop thinking it’s FUN and you enjoy it. You don’t anymore, right? (Or else you wouldn’t be here reading this!)

Many drinkers don’t want to subject themselves to a room full of first-name-only strangers—I know I didn’t at Alcoholics Anonymous. Let me say that AA does an admirable job, so I’m not knocking them. It just wasn’t for me as I’m a pretty private person.

Can’t Afford A Clinic?

One of the biggest battles isn’t physical—it’s mental. We have to change the way we think about drinking.

For years, you’ve told yourself that drinking is fun. It’s how you celebrate. It’s how you cope. But let me ask you: Is it really fun anymore? If it were, you wouldn’t be here. You wouldn’t be searching for a way out.

It’s time to reframe how you see alcohol. Instead of thinking, Drinking helps me relax, start thinking, Drinking keeps me trapped. Instead of, I’ll never have fun without alcohol, try, I can create a life where I don’t need alcohol to enjoy myself.

This isn’t just positive thinking—it’s science. Studies show that our thoughts shape our behaviors. The more we reinforce a certain belief, the more our brain wires itself around that belief. That’s why people who say, I could never quit drinking often can’t—because they’ve convinced themselves it’s true.

You are not powerless. You are not beyond help. And you are not alone.

Can’t Do AA? There Are Other Options

A lot of people assume that quitting drinking means going to AA. And while Alcoholics Anonymous has helped millions, it’s not the only way. If the idea of sitting in a room full of first-name-only strangers doesn’t appeal to you, that’s okay. I felt the same way.

AA is just one path to recovery, but it’s not the only one. There are alternative programs like:

  • SMART Recovery – Based on cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), this method helps you take back control of your thoughts and actions.
  • Online Sobriety Communities – Support groups like r/stopdrinking on Reddit provide encouragement without face-to-face meetings.
  • Sobriety Apps – Tools like I Am Sober and Reframe help track progress and offer daily motivation.

The key isn’t where you find support—it’s that you do.

What If You Slip Up?

Let’s be honest—relapses happen. They’re not inevitable, but they’re common. And the worst thing you can do is let a single bad night spiral into a full-blown relapse.

If you slip up, forgive yourself. Learn from it. What triggered you? How can you avoid that situation in the future? Then get back on track immediately—because one mistake doesn’t erase all your progress.

Sobriety isn’t about perfection. It’s about persistence. And to help you stay on track, when you download my free eBook, you’ll also receive a bonus copy of my Relapse Prevention Guide. It’s packed with practical strategies to help you recognize triggers, build resilience, and stay strong—especially when cravings hit.

You don’t have to do this alone. Get the tools you need to quit drinking and stay sober—starting today.

Grab your free eBook from the right-hand column on desktop, or scroll down to the bottom of the page if you’re on mobile!

What About Rehab?

For some, alcohol rehab is a great option. But let’s be real—it’s also expensive. Without insurance, a 30-day inpatient stay can cost anywhere from $5,000 to $30,000+. Even outpatient programs can be thousands of dollars.

If you can’t afford that—or just don’t want to go that route—don’t assume you’re out of options. You can quit on your own, with the right support, structure, and determination. That’s why I wrote Life’s Better Sober.

This book isn’t about theory. It’s about what actually works—because I’ve lived it.

If you’re ready to take control of your life, don’t wait for another “tomorrow.” Start today.

Quit drinking and making excuses: Life's Better Sober, 66-Day Coaching Program
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Sources:

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). “Alcohol and Public Health: Frequently Asked Questions.” 2024. https://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/faqs.htm

Harvard Health Publishing. “Alcohol Use Disorder: When Drinking Becomes a Problem.” 2023. https://www.health.harvard.edu/addiction/alcohol-use-disorder

National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA). “Understanding Alcohol Use Disorder.” 2024. https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohols-effects-health/alcohol-use-disorder

American Psychological Association (APA). “The Psychology of Addiction: How Habits Form and How to Break Them.” 2023. https://www.apa.org/topics/addiction

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